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Children are most commonly abused by someone they know. This may be a single occurrence. More likely, however, the abuse will continue over a period of time. When repeated abuse occurs, the child is often promised special favors, told that it is education, and given special attention. Eventually the continued abuse may lead to full sexual intercourse. The child continues to participate out of guilt, confusion, or fear that something terrible will happen if someone finds out. The child may also be receiving special favors such as attention, gifts, privileges, money or a feeling of being "grown up." The vast majority of child molesters are teenage or adult males. Most are heterosexual men, many with children of their own.


Abusers come from all socioeconomic levels, religions and ethnic backgrounds. Children who are sexually abused are: Usually not violently abused, but are coerced and manipulated. Usually molested by someone the know and may trust. Usually afraid to tell because of fear they will be blamed, punished or not believed.  Not responsible for their abuse.


Myths and facts about sexual abuse of children


MYTH: The stranger represents the greatest threat to the child.

FACT: The most common victim is a girl who is assaulted nonviolently by an adult male she knows. Studies show that 75 percent to 95 percent of offenders are known to the child.


MYTH: Child molesters are all dirty old men.

FACT: In a recent survey of convicted child molesters, 80 percent were found to have committed their first offense before the age of 30.


MYTH: Children lie or fantasize about sexual activities with adults.

FACT: Children cannot make up sexual information unless they have been exposed to it. They speak from their own experience. Sometimes a parent will try to get a child to falsely report sexual abuse. Primary indicators of such a report are the child's inability to explicitly describe or illustrate the act, or a grossly inconsistent account.


MYTH: It is not important for children to have information about sexual assault.

FACT: It is as important for children to have information about sexual assault for their own safety as it is for them to receive information about fires, crossing the street and swimming.


MYTH: Child sexual abuse is an isolated one-time incident.

FACT: Incestuous situations develop gradually, over a period of time, and the sexual abuse can occur repeatedly.


MYTH: In cases of incest the child victim provokes or initiates the sexual contact.

FACT: Family sexual abuse often begins before a child understands its significance. The perpetrator uses his/her position of authority and trust to convince the child that their relationship is normal. The victim may be trapped in a relationship for years. Seductive behavior may be the result, but never the cause, of sexual abuse. The responsibility lies with the adult offender.


MYTH: If children did not want it, they could say stop.

FACT: Children generally do not question the behavior of adults. They are often coerced by bribes, threats and use of a position of authority.


MYTH: Any parent who would sexually abuse their child has to be mentally ill.

FACT: The vast majority of abusers are not mentally ill, and most hold jobs, function well in the community and are well respected by their peers. Most abusers deny the event and some claim seduction by the child.


MYTH: Telling offenders to stop is all that is necessary.

FACT: An offender will continue to offend unless stopped. The offender needs to be reported to the police or child protection service. Extensive counseling is important if the offender is serious about changing how he/she reacts to children and handles relationships with them.


MYTH: The lower the family income and social status, the higher the likelihood of the sexual abuse of the children.

FACT: There is no data to support this conclusion.

What is Sexual Abuse


Sexual abuse generally refers to sexual violence directed at children, adolescents or vulnerable adults.  The perpetrators can be parents, siblings, other family members or other trusted adults. Like sexual assault, it can take a variety of forms.


Child sexual abuse occurs when a child is exploited for the sexual gratification of an older person. Contact can take many forms: fondling of the genitals or breasts; oral, vaginal or anal intercourse (penetration by genitals or by an object): or exposing sexual parts of the body. When these acts occur within a family, the sexual abuse is called incest.

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